Whilst you’re growing up you make friends.
Primary school friends, high school friends, college friends, university friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, family friends, parents friends, work friends, hobby friends, old friends, young friends.
Some may be in your life for a small amount of time, but some are with you for the long haul.
I have a variety of groups of friends back home in the UK and growing up I never really ever had an issue with making friends. It was easy. You like them, they like you, you find each other interesting and hit it off.
Since moving to Melbourne just under a year ago, I feel like my life has taken a turn completely.
I find it difficult to make friends. I’m quite and easy going person, I love shopping and talking and going out places. I love interacting with people and would say I was quite a social person.
But I’ve noticed, I’ve turned into a bit of an isolate person. I find that I enjoy my own company a lot. I like doing things on my own. I don’t know whether this is true or if I’ve been forced to by my living situation.
Now I know how normal it is to want to spend time with yourself with no one around. But as a professional working in mental health, I also know it’s not a good thing either.
So my question is, how the heck do you make friends in a completely different country?
I’ve tried going to the gym, I’ve tried being nicer at work and have made a effort with colleagues. But I feel like at this age, you’re allowed to pick who you want to spend time with.
Maybe I’m just too selective and fussy.
But I know the type of friends I want. The ones I have back home.
There must be people who are like them in Melbourne. Not everyone can be as non desirable as some of my colleagues or the people at the gym.
I don’t want to be a loner.
I want to go shopping with other girls. I want to go for food with people other than Dave – he’s awesome but it’s nice to have a change.
I pluck up the courage to talk to my mum about it and she tells me to go out and meet people. Where?
I don’t want to go out on my own and start chatting up people for a friendship. I don’t want to be that weirdo who people hope you don’t approach them.
So if any nice 20 odd year olds in Melbourne see this, give me some tips and pointers. How do you find nice friends in is beautiful city?